He is now 62 yrs old and the medical aspect is becoming more and more difficult for me to handle. I just placed my 95yr old father in a VA home in June 2015 and am happy that he was able to get in as a resident. Care has been good but he does seem more confused lately. I try to visit him 2x a week (about 45 min drive) and still take care of my brother and the home. It is really becoming all too much lately. My brother has talked about being in a home, but what kind would serve his needs. He really wants a private room with bath, eat in his room and have his TV and radio for entertainment. He likes his privacy and has never been much of a talker with others. He needs bathing, dressing, toileting(depends) and has a supra pubic catheter. He can be moved to electric wheelchair to come to table to eat, watch TV and sometimes read the paper. I just don't know what kind of facility to start looking for. Would we have to start on private pay? I just want a nice comfortable place for him as I know we all want for our loved ones. Any ideas? Thanks