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Okay so my boyfriend's mom does not live with us though she and he would like that. I live with my daughter my boyfriend and his grandparents, his mom is a bad addict she sometimes leaves her stuff around and she takes stuff without asking and won't return it. My boyfriend talks to her but feels bad and let's it go later. Like she stole my clothes and a bag and my hair straightner then he got mad was like your not coming back.. 4 days later she's back falling out and taking my 1 year olds only food. I like her when she's sober no I actually love her when she's clean but God man when she's not its enough to make me leave my boyfriend. I know he can't control her and it's his mom I won't ask him to not talk to or see her but my only other option in my head is leave him bc I refuse to let my baby see that and I hate not being able to have nice things bc she takes them... help should I break up with him? Can you give me another option?

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You don't need to break up with him...just move out and have your own space for your own sake and that of your child. If boyfriend can't put boundaries around his relationship with his mom, he is not the man for you at this point in time. His mother is unstable, please don't expose yourself or your daughter to this. And don't wait around hoping he'll get "fixed". Life is short. Also, for clarity, she is not your MIL since you are not married.

Also, are you providing any care to the grandparents that also live there? I hope not because then you're just a caregiver with benefits. Wishing you clarity and wisdom and high standards as you decide what your future looks like (and your daughter's future as well)!
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A child hears and sees everything even if they do not say anything and they carry their childhood into adulthood.

IMO your first priority is to your child. This is a dysfunctional situation that your child should not be exposed to.

I am sure that you understand that someone could call CPS and there is a possibility that your child could be taken away from you, just because of the exposure to drugs/paraphernalia. I am not saying this will happen, but you may want to take this into consideration when making your decision.

I suggest that you do what is right for your child, you are his/her voice.

Sending support your way.
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You don’t have the power to influence your boyfriend or his mom. You can change your circumstances though. Make arrangements to move away if you are living with him. If he is living with you then simply tell him that his mom is no longer welcome in your home. Your daughter comes before his mom.
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This sounds like an insane situation, and a horrific living arrangement for a child. Move out.
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