I am at home with her full time and she can not stay by herself, so my husband and I thought it would be good for her to go to a day center (activity center) two days a week so that I can have a break and spend some quality time with my grandkids, they are all under 7. But when I took MIL for her first day visit for only 4 hours, she said she hated it and she cried the whole evening after I brought her home. She also was in a nursing center for 3 weeks for rehab and called crying everyday but me and my husband enjoyed our break from her. When we decided to go on vacation and take her for a week, she had me so tense from complaining the whole time that I was ready to come home. Please help?
Check out this daycare in action to see how they are treating Mom. You’re allowed. She may be trying to put the proverbial “dart in your heart” by carrying on pitifully when she comes home. She’s playing you. Don’t let it get to you and do bring her back for the next scheduled daycare session. When she realizes this is her new reality she may just decide the heck with it and join in.
Has she been seen by a geriatric psychiatrist? She sounds depressed, anxious and agitated. All pretty common for dementia patients. There are no meds that cure dementia, but there are meds for some of the symptoms that are caused by the fact that their brains are broken.
Your MIL's happiness does not trump yours.