When I tell mom she hasn't showered, she gets upset because in her mind, she did. I put a tissue under her bath chair, to show it is dry. She said it dried up. I am running out of ways to get her to shower. Any suggestions out there will be greatly appreciated.
Today my brother (her son) is coming to take her out for a special date and she needs to shower (again) and gets dressed up, or else he won't come.
Today is ____ holiday, and we're visiting the temple (my mom is religious), so you have to shower (again) and be clean in order to step foot inside, or else we can't go.
If you know your mom likes to do something or go somewhere, you may use it as an incentive to get her to shower.
There is also the dreaded fear of falling, even with a bath chair. The feel of the water hitting upon us. Leaning over to turn off the shower, which can unravel our balance.
There is also cases of claustrophobia going into a shower. Especially a shower that has glass doors. I know I plan to have those doors removed and go back to using a shower curtain... those doors take a lot of effort to dry off to keep spots from forming.
I know if I had my way, and had no neighbors, I would prefer to run through a yard sprinkler :)
Is there a reason your Mom needs to shower every day? Unless she is doing hard labor or making a huge mess wearing Depends, there is no need for daily showering. It only dries out the skin, making it itchy. In-between showers, one can use baby wipes to clean those areas that need attention.
Perhaps changing the shower head to something that is more like a gentle stream or a summer rain fall could help.
My thoughts are that if she can sit in a tub holding the shower head she might relax and enjoy it a little.
If that fails try getting her to do a sponge bath using the sink for those areas that might need it.
But, the only time my mother showered was after she went “swimming” - haha, more like got in the pool for a few minutes and then got out - at her gym. They had a saltwater pool she liked and she would use the gym shower afterwards because of the saltwater.
Unfortunately, trips to the gym were irregular - at best and in her last few years as the dementia really ramped up - along with significant physical decline, she quit going to the gym altogether.
I kid you not - my mother went three years without a true showering. I have to say, she did a good job with her birdbaths as I never noticed any odor. Still... Eventually, cellulitis became a regular problem which I’m sure was exacerbated by the lack of bathing.
Once mom was in AL and later a NH, showers were pretty much given whether she liked it or not. Which she didn’t. At all.
Good of luck to you on this one. It was just one of many battles I never won.