Having little to no outside help from family members, I regret to say I did not educate nor protect myself in regards to the final stages of her death and estate. I gave up my home and life to care for her in her home so that she didnt have to go to a nursing home. I am blessed to have had the time with her. However, living in her home with her son being the beneficiary Its likely I will be ejected from the home and possibly my assets being liquidated in the process. My grandma requested her will be updated when she had the lawyer transfer the POA responsibility to me but never updated even after 2 more attempts were made at my grandmother's request. My grandmother suffered from bipolar disorder and the original will was made when she was in a manic state. All of this is likely irrelevant now, but her wishes were to leave the home to her grandson and as long as myself or other direct family wanted to live in the home and rent they could do that. She made this clear to all loved ones the last 10yrs of her life but my uncle will not acknowledge her wishes and is coming to file the will with probate tuesday. Any advice other than hard lesson learned?
We see this over and over again. People leave their jobs, move in with elders and care for them until placement or death. They are then left without a job history and homeless. Many have ended up in homeless shelters themselves.
I am so sorry, but unless someone helps you out of the goodness of heart, I am afraid you haven't anything to stand on. I would see a landlord tenant advisor in your area if there is one to see what your rights are as being virtually a tenant at this time. In San Francisco you would be likely to get moving expenses that are generous just in the hopes you would willingly vacate the home without court action.
We just bought a home that was in a trust. 5 surviving kids and multiple grandkids...and I guess things were not all copacetic between this man and his kids. His oldest son was the executor and did get paid a few bucks for the hours he spent doing the 'grunt work.' The man had been a dentist with a VERY lucrative practice and had a lot of investments. (we didn't care about THAT, just wanted to buy the house in this crazy market)...
Anyway, we made this embarrassingly lowball offer which shockingly, they accepted.
Once our offer had been accepted and some legalities taken care of, they had a 'reading of the will'. MILLIONS of dollars sitting there---and he left every cent to his church.
I haven't talked to any family about it, but we were a little anxious b/c the family was so angry and we were afraid they'd tale some kind of revenge on us.
I know there is a backstory or ten about this, I have heard a little, I guess he was constantly helping out his kids and grands and must have changed his will at some point and nobody knew.
One granddaughter was living with him, as a CG, but also sneaking her BF in at night. The old man probably knew and as he was sharp to the end, I think he simply saw leaving his millions to the church he loved was his way of letting his kids know they'd not behaved well. I don't really know, but I'm sure we'll hear more.
Nothing in writing, agreements were all verbal. I am so glad we have written, notarized will and 5 kids who do not need our money.
I agree 100% with Alva. While it sounds like you're being 'nit picky' about the will's intent, it's much worse to find out you've been cut out completely. It's not about not trusting someone, it's just common sense.