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I know people from the forum have done cruises successfully but they have the money to pay for an extra family member or two or to hire a caregiver to come along.
No your not selfish. My Cruise was 11 days, land and water and very expensive. You can't enjoy a trip if u don't know what the person is going to do next. I had 2 flights out and 2 back. My flight was canceled out of Vancouver and I had a 10 hr layover in Toronto. Worst airport ever. This was 2022 and still COVID testing. Needed passports renewed because going into Canada. No way would I go thru all this with a person suffering from Dementia. Tell him "not this year". Tell him COVID is still out there.
I agree. When we down-sized, I wound up choosing the area that would give me peace of mind, not the area that boasted the most accessible healthcare. I cannot be an effective caregiver to my husband who suffers from Parkinson's without keeping my own sanity. As it turned out, he has an excellent medical community locally, the one exception being we have to drive two hours to see his Parkinson's specialist. A small price to pay since visits are every 4-6 months. Show yourself a little love. It's not selfish.
It sounds like you found the limit with traveling with him. Likewise my family also made the determination of not traveling with my mom and MIL. You might want to search for respite care or hiring through a service while you go on your own. Can you make up some sort of fib for going away? Caring for a distant family member? Surgery and rehab for you?
No, you're not. He doesn't have the capacity to understand the demands his caregiving requires, because he doesn't have the capacity to recall what losses he's experiencing or how you have to help support him. It certainly wouldn't be enjoyable for you, worrying about him all the time. Caregiving should encompass your needs too. Is he at a stage in his disease where you can divert him by using a fib about why you can't go? Maybe the economy, or some other event you need to go to, or other plans?
If he needs a babysitter, no, a cruise is out. You don't give us details of his condition overall, but I am thinking that your describing him as in need of your being there to "babysit" him means dementia. I would not be going on a cruise with someone suffering dementia, because it isn't like you can walk away, is it? Hubby may be having some magical thinking going.
Hire a sitter to stay with DH in a different cabin where you won't have to deal with him at all and can enjoy your cruise! Otherwise, stay home. We often use the word "selfish" as if it were a bad thing. When dementia is involved, "selfish" is a NECESSITY for the main caregiver! You need lots of breaks and respite time. An Alaskan cruise is filled with adventure, like biplane rides and kayak trips. Do you plan to schlep DH onto a KAYAK or a raft to hang on for dear life over the rapids?
Let common sense prevail and keep your husband home in a familiar routine where he'll be comfortable. Or get respite care for him in a Memory Care Assisted Living facility while YOU go on vacation.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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He doesn't have the capacity to understand the demands his caregiving requires, because he doesn't have the capacity to recall what losses he's experiencing or how you have to help support him.
It certainly wouldn't be enjoyable for you, worrying about him all the time. Caregiving should encompass your needs too.
Is he at a stage in his disease where you can divert him by using a fib about why you can't go? Maybe the economy, or some other event you need to go to, or other plans?
You don't give us details of his condition overall, but I am thinking that your describing him as in need of your being there to "babysit" him means dementia.
I would not be going on a cruise with someone suffering dementia, because it isn't like you can walk away, is it?
Hubby may be having some magical thinking going.
Let common sense prevail and keep your husband home in a familiar routine where he'll be comfortable. Or get respite care for him in a Memory Care Assisted Living facility while YOU go on vacation.