She has been bleeding from her rectum for over 2 years, her legs and ankles are swollen and cold, her stomach is hard and she has red spots on the lower part of her legs. She was 93 lbs but has now gained up to 104 in the past week. She does not eat well.
Do we need to get her to sign something saying she refuses medical care. She is ready to go home to Heaven.
She can request Palliative and or Hospice care which will ensure she is comfortable, but no interventions happen.
You need to confirm what will happen if she dies at home not on Hospice. I believe in many jurisdictions police will be involved in reporting the death. You do not want that. If she is on Hospice, you can call the doctor and funeral home and likely she will go from home to the funeral home.
I know when an uncle died of a heart attack, in his sleep 911 was called and police and ambulance attended. He went from his bed to the hospital morgue, to the funeral home.
Wishing you the best of luck at this difficult time.
Tell your mom that this is for you. She may enjoy the chaplain services they offer and you will benefit from having someone help you navigate the dying process.
Her symptoms sound like my dads congestive heart failure. A diuretic can help get the fluids out of her tissue and putting her feet above her heart for 1/2 hour a day can help keep the swelling down. Laying on her back with pillows under her calves is the best way we found, and it is comfortable.
Great big warm hug! This is such a challenging time of life. May God give you strength and wisdom during this time.