My mother said I was fired because I didn't believe in God because my brother and dad dropped me off and my mom and dad had a disagreement. I didn't hear it but apparently something was said about religion anyways I was outside but I told her I don't control what other people say she said because I was associating with them. She can't forgive me, my mom and stepdad have made my life very stressful it's not funny, she wanted to pay me a holiday and sick days check because I worked every holiday and sick day no matter what! I told her to hang on to it! I was crying and very upset. Any advice!
What does success look like to you? We don't need this answer, but you do.
What kind of life do you want for yourself?
Is the way it is today going to give you that life?
You have to go build your own life and then live it.
You can contact your local agency on aging (just google it), and get a social worker in the house to do an assessment. If step-dad isn't able or willing to do cares, then mom needs to be placed in a dementia care residence.
It seems there are a lot of conflicts occurring during the same time you're trying to take care of your mother. This doesn't sound like a good environment at all.
Perhaps being "fired" is the best thing that can happen because it gives you an opportunity (also sometimes referred to as a "kick in the butt") to move on with your own life, at least more so than seems to exist now.
I think the environment in the house seems toxic, whether b/c of the stepfather or your mother or their interaction. But I would see it as (a) an opportunity (b) and (b) early warning sign that it's time to refocus on your own life
If your mother reaches the point that she really needs care, she'll contact you. Until then, how can it hurt to rebuild your own life?