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I’m so sorry. It’s never easy to lose someone you love so much, and this time of year makes it even harder. I lost my mom two years ago, two days before Thanksgiving and I’ll never look at that holiday the same again. Unfortunately, this is something you have no control over. The priest is a good one to help you deal with this. This is part of his calling.
Im sending my sympathies and hoping you find some peace with this.
Ready or not and I personally do not believe we can ever prepare for the loss of a loved one. They can be sick for years and their death comes as a shock. We all die, but it is what we did while living that matters. She obviously loved a great deal and that will never leave you. You will always have her and her love and wisdom in your hearts. This could be the end. None of us are promised tomorrow, so live today as though it were her last. Everyday!
If she is not wanting to eat, don't force her, it could be very unpleasant if her body is shutting down and not digesting the food. If she wants to eat, I would cut down on the fiber and focus more on protein and fats. These won't bloat her as much as fiber, they also produce less waste, so you know. They will keep her full longer and make her feel more satisfied with less consumption.
Great big hugs to you, you will get through this. She will be missed but always loved.
I just read the bloating comes from the stomach very slowly emptying. So slowly that they rarely feel hungry. I think you should call her PCP. Her body may not be able to absorb food. Her body maybe shutting down.
I don't mean to be rude or blunt. But Mom is 87 in the later stage of Dementia. This means she is probably incontinent and in her own little world. She has been thru so much. If this is her time then let her go. Let her final days be comfortable and free of discomfort. Tell her she can let go that you will be alright.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Even tho we know to expect it, part of us holds out hope for a different outcome. Remember the good times and the love you shared. You and your family are in my prayers.
Catherine: Very sorry. I went though the same thing earlier in the year and know how it brings out feelings beyond words.
I guess I did learn we are never ready. My dad died at 93 and his 97 yo brother died a year ago. My cousins said they were not ready then.
Point is, and I still struggle with this, we are never ready and there was never a point where we feel we have done all we can and are ready. Maybe there is, I have talked to some people who say they were ready especially as the parent was in such bad shape for so long they were relieved to see the parent n longer on pain. But in general I think its normal to think we are never ready.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Im sending my sympathies and hoping you find some peace with this.
If she is not wanting to eat, don't force her, it could be very unpleasant if her body is shutting down and not digesting the food. If she wants to eat, I would cut down on the fiber and focus more on protein and fats. These won't bloat her as much as fiber, they also produce less waste, so you know. They will keep her full longer and make her feel more satisfied with less consumption.
Great big hugs to you, you will get through this. She will be missed but always loved.
I guess I did learn we are never ready. My dad died at 93 and his 97 yo brother died a year ago. My cousins said they were not ready then.
Point is, and I still struggle with this, we are never ready and there was never a point where we feel we have done all we can and are ready. Maybe there is, I have talked to some people who say they were ready especially as the parent was in such bad shape for so long they were relieved to see the parent n longer on pain. But in general I think its normal to think we are never ready.
Hugs!