Per places I am interviewing for possible, potential placement, they are stating once the parent is admitted, it is only the Power of Attorney who can sign papers to discharge my parent if needed (for example, the place is horrible, a family member has retired and is able to move the parent to their home, etc.)
Does anyone have experience with this?
Where is the elder right now?
Are you afraid a relative will abduct your parent?
When families get messy (& they can), when an elderly person's care is being fought over, having laws to abide to, laws to uphold people's rights & laws to help prevent neglect & abuse are very very important.
The financial POA is the person who makes sure the facility gets paid. No facility is going to let you admit your parent because you have no power to make sure they get paid .
You were already told what a guardianship fight would end in and how much it would cost. But, again, if you think to make decisions for someone no longer competent to make his or her OWN decisions, think in terms of 700.00 an hour, a costly court fight, and one you are almost certain to lose.
You are expressing great anger at a legal POA and at all medical help trying to help your loved one. I hope that you will cease and desist before you have a legal stay-away order in terms of a restraining order.
And if they don’t have decision-making capacity because of dementia, etc., then those same decision-making powers are in the hands of the POA, if any, who is expected to act in the best interest of the principal.
If there is no POA, then there needs to be a court appointed guardian.
No one else has that power – no more than I can walk up to a facility, pick a person at random, and sign them out. There’s no exception for being a family member, or a good friend, or being well-intentioned, etc. I just don’t have the decision-making power for that person.
In light of your other questions here, and understanding that you are not the POA, I hope you’re not contemplating whether you can permanently sign a parent out (who does not have capacity) even though you are not the POA, as long as you have a good plan for them. My understanding is that the POA has to make that call. Perhaps you were thinking of for a day trip or going out to a restaurant or some such. In that case it would presumably be with the POA’s permission.