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Steph, The website offers free referrals of assistance but the requested assistance is not free. I took the liberty to read your profile and I am so very sorry for the situation you are in with your mom. Please don’t give up on this forum. There are a lot of caregivers who have been through heck and can offer valuable advice. Tell us a little more about what’s going on and I’m certain people will reach out to you.
Its not Aging Care that is calling. The site can only give you info on what is in your area. This is the forum of Caregivers.
So sorry you are having so many problems. Transferring her property was what is holding up Medicaid. There is a penalty time depending on the Market Value of the property. Medicare does not pay for Assisted livings or homecare longterm. Its a health insurance. Medicaid usually doesn't pay for Assisted Living or Senior living. Some States do have waivers. Basically, though, only LTC facilities. Your free help would be thru Medicaid. Office of Aging may be able to help.
Could her ex transfer the property back to her name? Then put it up for sale. In the meantime Medicaid may pay for her care in LTC. Once property is sold, the money can be used towards her care.
A place for mom will call and harass you unless they tell you to stop. Some of the “expert” responders here were apparently being paid to advertise APFM and they were telling people here to call a certain phone number but they weren’t mentioning that it was APFM. It was misleading and unethical IMO. I called the number to see what it was before voicing a complaint about the spam, and it ended up being APFM. I hung up immediately and guess what? They log your phone number and they started calling me every hour! So I bet that’s what has happened to the OP. She called them and declined their services and now they won’t stop calling.
I am so sorry that you have this horrible situation. Your profile says that you are suicidal. Please call the suicide hotline for help.
Can you contact a social worker to help with your mom’s situation? Suicide is not the answer to your dilemma.
I’m so sorry that you are struggling financially. There are other people on this forum that have more experience than I have with your situation. They will help you.
Pray if you are a woman of faith. Please reach out for help. You are not alone. I just said a special prayer for you. I care and I know others on this forum care too.
Steph, I understand where you are now. Like you, there was not enough $ to pay someone so much an hour. Thank goodness, I have a husband to help me, WHEN he is home. But, for years he has taught night classes, 5 nights a week, getting home after 11 at night. My dad (this was a phrase he went through)would slide out of his wheelchair (and giggle) quite often & I could not pick him up. After many, many tears, I asked someone that I trusted(and needed a place) to move in for less than market rate to help me or be on-call in the evenings. That worked for almost 3 yrs. Now, I have a ceiling lift that allows me to lift him in his chair/toilet/bed. Your post reminded me of those "frustrated" times.
Next time they call you tell them you'd be glad for them to help but you can't pay them anything. I would assume they'd get the message and stop calling.
In all seriousness though, I think its time for you to relinquish care to the state. Call APS yourself if you have to or keep calling 911 if needed and make yourself scarce. If you've reached your limit you need to blow the whole thing up before you blow up yourself. There are other ways around it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The website offers free referrals of assistance but the requested assistance is not free. I took the liberty to read your profile and I am so very sorry for the situation you are in with your mom. Please don’t give up on this forum. There are a lot of caregivers who have been through heck and can offer valuable advice. Tell us a little more about what’s going on and I’m certain people will reach out to you.
So sorry you are having so many problems. Transferring her property was what is holding up Medicaid. There is a penalty time depending on the Market Value of the property. Medicare does not pay for Assisted livings or homecare longterm. Its a health insurance. Medicaid usually doesn't pay for Assisted Living or Senior living. Some States do have waivers. Basically, though, only LTC facilities. Your free help would be thru Medicaid. Office of Aging may be able to help.
Could her ex transfer the property back to her name? Then put it up for sale. In the meantime Medicaid may pay for her care in LTC. Once property is sold, the money can be used towards her care.
Ignorant and rude beyond measure.
Can you contact a social worker to help with your mom’s situation? Suicide is not the answer to your dilemma.
I’m so sorry that you are struggling financially. There are other people on this forum that have more experience than I have with your situation. They will help you.
Pray if you are a woman of faith. Please reach out for help. You are not alone. I just said a special prayer for you. I care and I know others on this forum care too.
Call your Area Agency on Aging they can help you find the assistance you need.
In all seriousness though, I think its time for you to relinquish care to the state. Call APS yourself if you have to or keep calling 911 if needed and make yourself scarce. If you've reached your limit you need to blow the whole thing up before you blow up yourself. There are other ways around it.
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