My mom lives alone and i feel she cannot take care of herself alone. She has been an alcoholic for many years and it is putting her health at high risk as well as her safety. She fell and hurt herself really badly and was stuck laying on the floor till i found her two days later. I called EMTS and she denied any medical attention. She is 64 years old and also has had a stroke about 3 years ago. I'm worried about her extremely! She is very stubborn and she never leaves her home. She is very depressed. What do i do with her?
I guess I'd bring in an impartial outsider, perhaps by calling social services and explaining my concerns.
My heart goes out to you. As much as we love people we can't live their lives for them. Just do your best.
You can help yourself, however, by going to Al-Anon or Families Anonymous meetings. These meetings are made up of people like you whose lives are affected by the behavior of alcoholics they love. Please remember that alcoholism is a disease. Your mom isn't too old to go to Alcoholics Anonymous, but she needs to want to go. If you join Al-Anon, you may connect with people who could try to reach out to your mom, too. She has a life to live, but you can't make her live it.
Please try to take care of yourself, and know that your mom is very sick. This is no reflection on you. You need support to make the most of your own life and to drop any guilt you feel.
Hang in and please check back,
Carol