Mom is 93 with Dementia. She still knows who each of us are but forgets things. She is in the dementia section of a senior living center. Dad passed away several years ago but she insists she talked to him the other day. She is always asking where he is. My brother passed away last Friday but we haven't told Mom yet because of the Covid19 restrictions. We visit through a window. What should we do?
If the latter, what would be the downsides? If he visited periodically or frequently, you could make excuses - car problems, house problems, etc., wash and repeat. If he visited rarely, would she be aware that he's still not visiting?
I think the question is how would she react to either telling of his passing or not, and which would be the easiest and most helpful for her?
I think I would not mention it. She is unlikely to be able to process the information, but it will make her sad anew each time she hears it.