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In the state of Florida how do children of an elder father help him when he has a wife who is blocking us out of dad’s medical welfare. She is mentally unstable. Makes fun of his penis in front of everyone when he was naked in the hospital (was just tested thanks to my sister and we are waiting for results.). She tells him he can run when he wobbles, walks with a cane and walker. She tells him that he doesn’t need it.



My dad is in danger. I’m very shaky and worried for him. Do we have any rights? Any suggestions?



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Adult Protective Services IF you come up with an incompetency test for step mom. They will assist you in getting guardianship for Dad. But little else will remove a wife from privileges for her husband. In fact, nothing else other than incompetency. And this could be a court fight, so expect to put money out.

You are looking at a situation now for which you need legal help. You need an attorney. APS may be able to help you in getting one.

Wishing you the best.
While Dad is hospitalized you and your sister/s should contact a social worker. She/he cannot discuss with you your Dad's condition but she/he CAN ASSESS YOUR STEPMOM and she CAN call in APS.
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Momzindl Dec 13, 2023
Thank you. Very stressful. I will look into a social worker.
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You can contact APS or report to your State's Elder Abuse hotline number.
You can contact an Elder Care Attorney and try to obtain Guardianship.
To do this you would have to have proof that your step mother is not caring for dad, any physical, emotional and or mental abuse would also probably allow for you to obtain Guardianship.

OH, and if stepmother is doing this IN the hospital in front of staff they are MANDATED to report any abuse. You can "remind" them of that fact.
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Momzindl Dec 13, 2023
Thank you :););)
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Your stepmother can not change a form your dad signed.

Are you speaking of the one that gets signed at the hospital or doctors office? Because those things are only good for 12 months and then they are considered invalid, even though they don't show an expiration date, it is common practice in the medical industry.

If you have a copy of one dad signed, go to the hospital and make sure they understand that you just want legitimate information from the source about your dad's condition and he wanted that for you as proven by the signed HIPAA.
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Momzindl Dec 13, 2023
Thank you. I do not think he ever signed one but I’ll check his eye dr because he may have signed it there
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In my state (MN) the HIPAA form has to be signed every year (so, it expires). Not sure this is true in every state, or if it expires a year from when it was signed or at the beginning of a new year. I need to sign a form for every single doctor or clinic I receive treatment at, there is no blanket form.
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Sounds awful! So sorry for your situation.

I agree with Alva. Start with APS.
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Momzindl Dec 13, 2023
Thank you. I’m taking notes. It’s so nervewracking. We should all be working together at this time. Not this.
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Is Dad competent? If so SM does not get to change his Hippa form. If he is not competent, she can't change it without a POA, IMO.
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Momzindl Dec 13, 2023
He is in and out. Today he is worried sick that his stepson will steal all his money. So sinful.
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She isn’t allowed to change his HIPAA form.
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Momzindl Dec 13, 2023
The rehab said they took us off the list. That she requested it. And they are allowing her to do this in the state of Florida. :( I’m trying to figure out who to contact to help us.
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Write a note to dad’s primary care doctor and mention what you have said here.
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Momzindl Dec 13, 2023
Thank you. He didn’t have a pcp but I can do that to his cardiologist
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