Hi, to prevent a fall, I must accompany my LO to the toilet at night.
We share a room but I am worried that I will not wake up when she gets out of bed (I am permanently exhausted!).
Are there motion sensors which would alert me to movement?
I've only come across baby monitors which alert an already-awake parent to a motionless baby.
Thank you.
The was used originally for the driveway when anyone would come up the driveway so they would hear that somebody was here. So we removed that and put the sensor in the bedroom under her nightstand and the other part near my dad's head so that he would wake up also but for me to hear in the other room I use the baby alarms I can set one up in their room and put the other one in my room so I could hear it go off so I will get up it's very loud and it will wake you up
You will not be able to prevent a fall anyway. There's a reason why you don't wake up -- you're completely exhausted.
Please get overnight assistance for your loved one, because this is not sustainable. You need to sleep in another room so you can be coherent during the day.
But working to decrease risks & increase safety are excellent aims.
Envinomental ideas: Remove floor rugs, good slippers, sensor light in bathroom, grab rails around toilet, the correct gait aid/frame. Even a bell on the bathroom door.
If Supervision or actual hands-on assistance is needed, this becomes very tiring for the nighttime caregiver. It is critial a full-time daily caregiver gets quality sleep.
Are you willing to share any recent falls? Or why your LO is not safe up alone?
This isn't a recommendation, just an example to start you off: https://za.ninelife.com/products/bed-alarm-with-long-term-bed-and-chair-pads-by-smart-caregiver
I can't imagine how you can go on combining broken sleep every night with a three hour daily commute, though.
Thank you very much CountryMouse, Beatty, MJ1929, Catskie62 and Nanabell for your responses ! I can't tell you how grateful I am !
I have a part-time Carer to relieve me some days and nights but it's pricey and after-hours public transport is not always safe for her to use. Mom is also resistant to having a Carer.
Mom has an en-suite loo about 4 metres from her bed, and my room is right next door. I leave the doors open all the time but she is so small and frail that it's like listening out for a mouse. I have a camper bed to put next to her bed.
Thank goodness she has not yet fallen but is a prime candidate.
Aside from Leukaemia, Mom has Dementia and she cannot remember to press a buzzer or call me. She doesn't even put the light on or flush the loo because "I don't want to wake you up" !
I experienced problems with my 93-year-old late mother back in 2013. After several falls, she was forced into a NH despite her nasty protests. Glad I listened to my family to leave her in a facility as she was fragile with osteoporosis, heart condition and other medical conditions.
Forget about any inheritance as all her money goes to her care.
Place it just below the pillow underneath a quilted bed pad - also from Amazon - and when she lifts her shoulder off the bed to sit up, it rings. That gives me enough time to get in to her bedroom before she starts walking.
I also have the chair alarm from the same company that I place in her chair so I am not confined to the kitchen all day long while she is out of bed and sitting in her chair.
In addition I have a baby monitor, but don't rely on it nearly as much as these two alarm devices.
https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Caregiver-Wireless-Alarm-System/dp/B07RCYD69T?ref_=ast_sto_dp
Also, if you have pets, they can trigger it. My cat sometimes walks in the room and sets it off.
Does she use a walker? Or, have
you considered a bedside commode? It could really help as she wouldn't have to walk to the toilet. Less risk of falling.
Is this a M-F commute? So you work a full day during the week PLUS a 3-hour daily commute?
No wonder you are "permanently exhausted"!!!
You will be further harming your health if you insist on getting up with your mother during the night.
It's time to get overnight help for your mother or possibly placement in a facility.
Wishing you and loved one well.
Im an extremely light sleeper so just the push of his button & chair motor I'm up to assist him.
Prior to him using tge chair, I slept in the bedroom across the hall.
BUT again I was tuned in to listening for him so I was up in the room helping him get out of bed.
I bought a bell that he could ring if he needed assistance & I was maybe in kitchen doing dishes etc
I laid it close so he could feel where it was at & it worked
You might give it a try
It was only a few dollars on-line
There are floor alarms/mats that would sound when he put his feet on the floor.
Have you considered any of the following...
A commode by the bedside
Using a hand held urinal
Convincing him that the incontinent over night underwear will absorb all and he does not have to get up out of bed.
Side story about the same thing.
One of the ladies at my Support Group made a loop in her husbands pj's and she would put her hand through the loop. That way she would be awakened if he tried to get out of bed. Tried as we might she would not take any other suggestions and this is how she managed until he had to go into a MC facility after a fall.
Can a commode be put right beside the bed instead of taking a hike to the bathroom? (This worked for my mom for a few years.)
What about overnight disposable underwear?
Have you tried bed rails? With proper garments worn and possibly a sleep aid, the LO should be able to sleep, and you can too.