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The house needs major work. We are having the interior painted, new carpet put in, etc. We are terrified of her reaction. Any suggestions on how to break the news to her and deal with this?
If your mom has Alz, there is really no good way to break news to her. She may not remember after you tell her, so be prepared for that.
At this point, there is no “reasoning” with her. She can’t evaluate the pros and cons of a situation, like a person without a dementia. You can’t “convince” her of anything.
This week, my mother is convinced that all she is given to eat is apples. NOTHING I say can get her to see that that is not the case.
If you are “terrified” at her reaction, what specifically observable actions do you fear? Are you and your other caregivers reasonably aware of the symptoms and consequences of dementia, which is a major symptom of Alzheimer’s.
If she uses verbally hostile language, threatens you, throws objects, spits at you, attempts to strike you with her hands or cane, you need to be aware that these antisocial reactions may be beyond her control, IF she has been DIAGNOSED BY A PROFESSIONAL as having Alzheimer’s.
Being “terrified” of the symptoms of someone in your care is never a healthy situation for you OR for your parent.
Try a contact to your local Office of The Aging, and ask if you can speak to a social worker. Be TOTALLY HONEST when describing EXACTLY WHAT SHE DOES.
Don’t talk about how horrible she is, whether you feel that way or not. You will have the chance to voice those feelings as you continue caring for her. JUST THE FACTS are the important thing for now.
GOOD LUCK. Many of us have been where you are now. You CAN get help.
I don’t understand. If she’s terrorizing you, she shouldn’t be living with you. Or you shouldn’t live with her. If she’s that sick, you shouldn’t be caregiving her. Find a place for her to go where she gets 24/7 care by professionals. This may get much worse before it is over.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Who is "we"? Do you live with your mother and siblings? If so, how is that working out? Does she need 24/7 care?
I'm asking these questions because I think you have a lot more going on than just how to break the news to her of the house remodel.
At this point, there is no “reasoning” with her. She can’t evaluate the pros and cons of a situation, like a person without a dementia. You can’t “convince” her of anything.
This week, my mother is convinced that all she is given to eat is apples. NOTHING I say can get her to see that that is not the case.
Why would an adult allow their parent to rule the roost and control their behavior by throwing tantrums?
Maybe it's time for some change, aside from paint and carpets,
If you want advice about how to effect change in this situation, we are ready to tell you how.
If she uses verbally hostile language, threatens you, throws objects, spits at you, attempts to strike you with her hands or cane, you need to be aware that these antisocial reactions may be beyond her control, IF she has been DIAGNOSED BY A PROFESSIONAL as having Alzheimer’s.
Being “terrified” of the symptoms of someone in your care is never a healthy situation for you OR for your parent.
Try a contact to your local Office of The Aging, and ask if you can speak to a social worker. Be TOTALLY HONEST when describing EXACTLY WHAT SHE DOES.
Don’t talk about how horrible she is, whether you feel that way or not. You will have the chance to voice those feelings as you continue caring for her. JUST THE FACTS are the important thing for now.
GOOD LUCK. Many of us have been where you are now. You CAN get help.